Rebuilding myself after having my confidence KILLED when I was a teenager was a multi-pronged approach, but I found the single most effective thing that worked to build my social confidence was not a meditation or mind trick; it was in fact to do the thing I was most scared of… socialize.
As I sit and watch this 50 Shades sequel, I can't help but take away some lessons from this fictional story that has won the intense interest of over a million women...
These comments have BLOWN MY MIND
It's finally done!
THE most overlooked fundamental secret to good parenting.
One of the most advanced practices in personal development is the art of being a suspicious and distrusting mofo.
Suspicious and distrusting of who?
You probably don’t look after yourself.
Most men don’t. Not really, anyway.
A skillful man thinks of sadness as a woman - a feminine entity - who wants to be with him. He knows he cannot turn her down or reject her. He instead surrenders and joins her.
How the path of violence lead me to teach men how to open their hearts
Check out the article I wrote for the fine people over at YourTango.com!
While I was never a mommy's boy, something shifted in me when she died. And it wasn't a bad thing. As crazy it sounds, even at the time, I knew this would somehow be good for me.
In this original piece I wrote for The Good Men Project, we look at the subject of 'emotional self-defence'
As a man, your presence is one of the deepest gifts you have to offer to the people in your life, to the world and even to yourself. And people can only really experience this from you in its fullest when you have one-on-one time with them...
If there's one thing that is absolutely central to how a strong man conducts himself it's this. Decision, which has it's root origin in the Latin decisio which means to 'cut off', ties in completely with integrity.
A talk given in February 2016 to a group of men who share their personal situations
Today was one of those days where you hear something in the morning and you’re still thinking about it at bed time, because it sticks in your head. And not because it’s a nice thought, but because it’s unpleasant. It’s something that angers or terrifies you. Or both.
One of the biggest problems I encounter in men time and time again is that they're too brainy. That is to say, they live in their heads and try to solve relationship problems with their intellect.
Let me explain...
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In interviewing men and couples, I've come to learn that perhaps the single biggest complaint men have in relationship is losing attraction to their woman.
Their stories almost always follow the same pattern; they found their partner attractive at first, then over time there was a gradual decrease is sex, attraction and passion OR there was a major event such has having a child or a major upset that killed off the sex, attraction and passion is one foul swoop.
The key difference though, is the perspective the man takes on who's fault it is...
You're most likely aware of the 'carrot and the stick' concept. The idea is simple; when trying to lead a donkey, you can dangle a carrot in front of its face (pleasure incentive) or you can whip it with a stick (pain incentive)
Many life coaches are all about that carrot. They love to keep the clients smiling... even when they're failing. Because it's all about being happy, right? Well, not always. In the bigger picture of your life, happiness is central. But in getting there, sometimes results come first in the pursuit of happiness.
I was with friends recently when the subject of 'the honeymoon period' came up. It quickly became apparent to me that people seem to have a rigid belief that all long-term relationships have this point at which, inevitably, things start to go south.
Curious, I asked around to see what people consider to be signs that the honeymoon period - that joyful, exciting phase at the very beginning of a relationship - is over.
Here's what came back to me...
The TRUTH about the "nice guy". Warning: this post may be triggering for some...
The top five core mistakes men make in intimate relationships.
Human beings, masculine ones especially, store tension in the body and often in the front of their bodies. Frowning, squinting, raising the eyebrows, grimacing, clenching the jaw and grinding the teeth – emotional tension manifested in the muscles of the face and neck. Slouching and rounded shoulders, this is tightness in the chest and abdominal region and even the hips...
In this article we’ll be looking at the subject of single men who are wanting to improve their ability to attract and keep a woman.
But first, stay with me while I educate you a little bit on lifting weights. Trust me; it’s relevant...
How you approach women and sex - the feminine - in your life, is how you want to approach your life itself. More specifically, if you are a man with a masculine essence, you will want to approach life and women in the same way...
I don’t make my children happy. Why? Because that’s not my job.
There have been interesting advances in counselling/therapy/coaching in the identification of a type of PTSD that potentially provides a model for understanding and ultimately working with what is likely the root cause of many instances of sudden major upsets in our intimate relationships.
My children don’t make me happy. Why? Because that’s not their job.
This is a short but powerful one! I was reminded of something recently and felt compelled to share.