When YOU become safer to be with...
Don't be surprised when your partner/spouse suddenly starts to meet some of their own 'stuff'.
What Beth and I see happen all the time is that when our clients get to a certain level of 'Queenhood' within themselves...
(Clear boundaries, high-level communication skills, emotional mastery and self-regulation, etc)
It's not uncommon for their man to suddenly have his unprocessed trauma arise.
It can look like him going into a depression, having old deep rage start to bubble up, or otherwise becoming extremely sensitive and emotional.
Why?
Because the environment is finally safe enough for those things to be processed.
It may sound unfair...
Like, "I've just finally got into a great place within myself, and now I've gotta deal with this"
And it can especially feel that way if they are unable to recognize that what they're experiencing is 'old stuff' and you start to become the target of their unprocessed resentments.
But for the most part, what this presents is an opportunity for both of you to break old (often generational) patterns.
Being there to create a safe space for this integration, WITHOUT trying to become a part of their healing (that's a whole subject unto itself), is the definition of a 'Conscious Partnership'
