You don't use dating apps.
They use you.
Many people know this now.
But what few realize, is that dating culture itself is the same.
It presents as something you can 'just have fun with'...
So much fun that you fail to notice the tentacles slowly reaching into you...
Inching toward and wrapping themselves around core parts of your mind and body...
🧠 Your dopamine receptors
🧠 Your attachment wounds
🧠 Your validation addiction
To name a few.
Until, before you know it...
It has taken what it needs from you, while convincing you that you were gaining something the whole time.
Leaving you with gaping wounds that now need healing before you can be even remotely ready for a healthy relationship.
There IS absolutely a way to find happy, healthy, committed partnership.
But it isn't through 'dating'.
Yes, it may well involve going on what we call 'dates'.
But, must be done while actively rejecting the culture of it, and freeing your mind from the conditioning we've all received in recent decades.
It's even possible while using dating apps, if you absolutely must.
(Although these scenarios aren't as common as people think)
But it will require you to be extremely switched on to all the ways the app wants to use you, so that you can instead use IT.
For our single clients, we don't let them anywhere near apps or 'dating' until they have certain things in place.
✅ A detailed document we call a 'Clarity Statement' that they must connect with every day
✅ An embodied relationship to their boundaries
✅ The ability to speak their "No"
✅ A spiritual alignment to their Higher Power guidance
And even then...
We highly recommend they don't mess with dating without continued real-time support.
Such is the level of danger in modern dating 🐙
Call me paranoid, but I frame all these things from the perspective of having a daughter...
And how much safety I INSIST be present in her life 💙
Which is the same level of safety we should want for ourselves and each other 🙏
