Art by Roberto Ferri
I felt chills as it dawned on me that I recognize this man.
I recognize the intensity of his attention on her, that can be mistaken for being incredibly present, loving even, but is really him looking for himself - in her.
I recognize how he takes the ‘higher’ position, swooping down to rescue from above, all the while his darker nature remains below – out of site.
And I recognize her.
The exhaustion in her face, the energy drained from her body, is familiar.
I recognize her inability to leave, tangled up with him, because she too doesn’t know who she is without his intense stare, in the same way he doesn’t feel worthy without feeling her need for him.
I know him because I was him.
And I know her because, well, I’ve been him. And because I've had many clients and friends who were 'her'.
My book aimed at helping women navigate such a man is currently being written and available in the next couple of months (early 2020)
