Physical Mastery

The Smell of Hard Work

There are a few ways in which I feel quite wolf-like, as a man.

One of these is my sense of smell; it’s extremely sensitive.

I remember once when I was in high school as we were all emptying out of the classroom at the end of the day, someone had left a book behind. There were only a couple of us left in the room when the teacher asked if we knew to whom this book without a name on belonged to. Like a weirdo, I smelled it, and instantly identified its owner.

As I continue to develop a sense of realness in my life, including getting closer to nature and away from industrialized living, I’ve come to realize I have very little tolerance for aftershaves and colognes.

My body has a strong ‘no’ response to all perfumes, no matter what fancy brand produced them.

And yet I’ve still liked the idea of smelling ‘manly’.

After throwing out all my expensive smelly things three years ago, I’ve searched for something natural to replace it, including playing around with essential oils myself.

In the end, I finally found the smell that works for me…

It’s the smell of the grass I just cut.

The leaves I just burned.

The WD-40 I just used to fix that squeaky hinge.

The boiled linseed oil I just used on that axe handle.

The pine needles from the Christmas tree I just brought home.

The leather pads I held for my son who I’m teaching to box.

The dinner I just cooked for my family.

Shoe polish.

Firearms.

Leather.

Metal.

Wood.

Earth.

Sweat.

Life.

These are my new favourite scents. And while I was originally tempted to say they all come for free… the truth is they are extremely expensive.

Because they are paid for in skills.

Some of which I learned from my parents, who learned them from theirs.

Priceless.

Talk on the Anatomy of Arousal | LONDON NOV 15TH



SPINE. HIPS. HEART.

These are the parts of the 'anatomy' I'll be speaking about on the 15th of Nov.

And my partner in crime Andrea Balboni will have her own body parts she'll be sharing her deep wisdom on.

Your spine is like a snake that lives inside your body. It can move in so many ways - ways in which, if you're like 99% of the world - are not fully exploring. These different ways of moving elicit different feelings - feelings you probably don't experience often.

Your hips are the seat for your physical centre, and your 'gut-brain'. Like the spine (and of course physically 'related' to your spine) they are able to move in multiple ways that most people (especially us 'Western' folk) are unable feel into. Not because we inherently can't, but because our cultural conditioning hasn't facilitated it. But like with most things, we can train ourselves in this area.

Your heart is more than just an organ that pumps blood around your body. It is capable of sending and receiving. It can transmit energy to someone else, and it can act as a sense-organ for feeling into another. We often disconnect from our heart, because it's also where we feel our greatest pain. Disconnecting from the heart in sex and intimacy, however, can be incredibly harmful to both parties. Conversely, it's heart-connection that makes for life-changing intimate encounters.

The practices I'll be covering in this talk have up until now only been something I share in my private coaching. And I'm not really a 'sexuality coach' (at least in my 'branding').

So it feels a bit strange. Esp considering that my path into working with the body on this level was through self-defence and martial arts.

The spine and hips, in particular, I dove into as a subject because I wanted to master the bio-mechanics of punching!

Literally, I wanted to teach smaller people how to generate enough force to knock out a larger and stronger opponent. So with some inspiration from my mentor in unarmed combat, which coincided with my studying for my Level 3 in Anatomy and Physiology, I went deep into working with my own body.

And now here I am several years later giving a talk alongside a Sex Coach for a company that also hosts sex parties for the 'elite'. 

I've stopped asking the universe why it wants me to go down certain paths. I just say yes!

Hope to see you there!

https://www.kuriouskittens.com/events/kurious-talk-unusual-anatomy-arousal/

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